This Chapter is all about “Working Through Change” and finding your “curveball”. It covers:

• Applying the change curve as a tool for understanding and responding to our reactions to change

• Mindfully working with life’s “curveballs”

• Mindfulness of A.G.E.I.N.G. using actionable words and reflections

• Six integrative strategies that build resilience and confidence (strength) as we age

Chapter 3 Resources

References:

Kabat-Zinn, Jon . (1994). Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life.

https://www.google.com/books/edition/Wherever_You_Go_There_You_Are/kF-3EAAAQBAJ?hl=en&gbpv=1&printsec=frontcover

Susan Bell: Happiness Across the Life Span: Not a Slippery Slope After All. USC Dornsife. (November 25, 2019)

The Change Curve

Kübler-Ross, Elisabeth (2014). On Death and Dying: What the Dying Have to Teach Doctors, Nurses, Clergy and Their Own Families (50th Anniversary Edition).

University of Exeter. PDP Toolkit

https://www.exeter.ac.uk/media/universityofexeter/humanresources/documents/learningdevelopment/the_change_curve.pdf

Weak Ties

Wyper, Adrienne (August 12, 2024), Weak Ties: how people you don’t know very well make for strong connections — That’s Not My Age (thatsnotmyage.com). Alyson Walsh Editor.

Window of Tolerance

Siegel, D. J. (1999). The developing mind: Toward a neurobiology of interpersonal experience. Guilford Press.

Siegel, D. J. (2020). The developing mind: Third Edition. How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are. Guilford Press.

https://www.guilford.com/books/The-Developing-Mind/Daniel-Siegel/9781462542758?srsltid=AfmBOorOd9LmbkKTsf_qCfNe1PFqSTNrcfZtSTR0BIC35nvPAySdVq05

https://perspectives.waimh.org/2021/06/04/signal-perspectives-in-infant-mental-health-articles-revisited-a-paper-by-daniel-siegel-the-developing-mind-toward-a-neurobiology-of-interpersonal-experience-from-the-signal-1998/

NICABM (National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine. How to Help Your Clients Understand Their Window of Tolerance [Infographic]. Blog.

https://www.nicabm.com/trauma-how-to-help-your-clients-understand-their-window-of-tolerance/

Mindfulness of Emotions

Robinson, Bryan E., Ph.D., (April 26, 2020)Psychology Today: The 90-Second Rule That Builds Self-Control. https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/the-right-mindset/202004/the-90-second-rule-builds-self-control

The Four Noble Truths 

6. The Four Noble Truths. Translated by Ānandajoti Bhikkhu, 2016 Based on the edition by Prof. N. H. Samtani in The Arthaviniścaya-sūtra & its commentary (Nibandhana) (Patna, 1971), updated to include the corrections he printed in that work on pp. 180–181, most of which were also printed in his translation of the same, Gathering the Meanings (Berkeley, 2002), on pp. 309–310. https://suttacentral.net/arv6/en/anandajoti?lang=en&reference=none&highlight=false

Gunaratana. H. (2011). Eight Mindful Steps to Happiness: Walking the Buddha's Path (Meditation in Plain English). Wisdom Publications

Fixed vs Growth Mindset

Edgcumbe, D. R. (2021). Age Differences in Open-Mindedness: From 18 to 87-Years of Age. Experimental Aging Research, 48(1), 24–41. https://doi.org/10.1080/0361073X.2021.1923330

Fabio, R. A., Chiatto, L. M., & Colombo, B. (2023). Growth Mind-Set and Healthy Behaviors In Older Adults. Activities, Adaptation & Aging, 1–14.https://doi.org/10.1080/01924788.2023.2252249

Fleck, J. I., Patel, P., Riley, E., & Ferri, C. V. (2023). Mindset matters: contributions from grit and growth mindsets to successful aging. Aging & Mental Health, 28(5), 819–827. https://doi.org/10.1080/13607863.2023.2280626

Richards, Graeme , "People who become more fixed in their viewpoints as they get older, usually display these 9 traits", Global English Editing, 2024, https://geediting.com/people-who-become-more-fixed-in-their-viewpoints-as-they-get-older-usually-display-these-9-traits/.

Robert. B. (2012). Te Long Bag We Drag Behind Us. Retrieved 12-04-2024, Sunhttps://static1.squarespace.com/static/5785b85b15d5dbb0fab56c26/t/60144eb382281a648bd59bb8/1611943607009/The+Long+Bag_Bly.pdf

Salamon. M. (2024). Too much TV might be bad for your brain. Retrieved 12-05-2024, from https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/too-much-tv-might-be-bad-for-your-brain#:~:text=Compared%20with%20people%20who%20watched,higher%20risk%20of%20Parkinson's%20disease.Visit The USA. V. (2024).

1. Find Happiness Where You Are

Kapur village song | kholasothar gaunpalika 1 hamro kapur gaun village promotional song (2020) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ipW-5MJw3Uw  (This song was made in my village in 2020. Some of the shots are in the courtyard of the family I lived with and my host family is in the video).

Stills S. (1971) Love The One You're With [song]. Stephen Stills [Album].

2. Get into flow 

E. Hara , "How to Achieve the Flow State", Psychology Today, 2024. [Online]. Available: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/clearer-thinking-today/202411/how-to-achieve-the-flow-state#:~:text=The%20flow%20state%20is%20a%20psychological%20state%2C%20first%20described%20by,it%20an%20%E2%80%9Coptimal%20experience%E2%80%9D.. [Accessed: 11-21-2024].

Huskey. R. (2022). Why Does Experiencing ‘Flow’ Feel So Good?. Retrieved 12-05-2024, from https://www.ucdavis.edu/curiosity/blog/research-shows-people-who-have-flow-regular-part-their-lives-are-happier-and-less-likely-focus

P. Kyle , "Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi Quotes From His Books On Flow, Creativity And Invention", DIYGenius, 2019. [Online]. Available: https://www.diygenius.com/mihaly-csikszentmihalyi-quotes/.[Accessed: 11-21-2024].

3. Give with No Strings Attached. 

J. Marsh, "Five Ways Giving Is Good for You", Greater Good Magazine, 2010. [Online]. Available: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/5_ways_giving_is_good_for_you. [Accessed: 11-21-2024].

Moll J, Krueger F, Zahn R, Pardini M, de Oliveira-Souza R, Grafman J. Human fronto-mesolimbic networks guide decisions about charitable donation. Proc Natl Acad Sci U S A. 2006 Oct 17;103(42):15623-8. doi: 10.1073/pnas.0604475103. Epub 2006 Oct 9. PMID: 17030808; PMCID: PMC1622872.

4. Forgive And Let Go of Your Burdens

Harrower. G. (2009). Amish School Shooting & Amish Forgiveness Books. Retrieved 12-06-2024, from https://lancasterpa.com/blog/amish/amish-shooting-forgiveness-books/

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Worthington. E. (2004). The New Science of Forgiveness. Retrieved 12-09-2024, from https://www.greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/the_new_science_of_forgiveness

5. Everything has a Beginning And an End

C. Childs, House of Rain: Tracking a Vanished Civilization Across the American Southwest ,  Back Bay Books, 2008

Ostaseski. F. (2017). The Five Invitations: Discovering What Death Can Teach Us About Living Fully Hardcover . Flatiron Books
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The USA is home to 24 of the 1,121 UNESCO World Heritage Sites across the globe. Retrieved 12-04-2024, from https://www.visittheusa.com/experience/world-heritage-sites-united-states

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